It's a good point, and it's true that we can easily attach a sense of victimization to our anxieties and then get stuck in that loop. However, in order to know what we wish to change, it is necessary in the process to acknowledge the existence of those things in our lives. To be stuck there is a problem. To acknowledge and try to work beyond those things is a good part of the value of taking note of them.

There is also the theory of understanding opposites. You can't know darkness if you haven't experienced light; you can't know wet if you haven't experienced dry, etc.

There is also the simple fact that sometimes we need to whine, and be understood. For many of us, I think that is part of the value of this tribe--as long as we don't get stuck there. I'm sorry it didn't work that way for you, Zvonko. I, too, wish you the best in finding a helpful path.

Ouch, Patrick. I don't think any of us can know what another needs or what their motivation is.

What I seem to "hear" from your post, Chris, is that we each find our own path. I, too, think that this tribe is a good place to learn techniques and viewpoints we hadn't thought of ourselves. I am glad to hear that you feel that you have come to a place of peace with your "stuff." I am glad that you are choosing to stay here and maybe give the rest of us some food for thought.